A game-theoretical approach to dating (with a bit of math). Note that the model is nearly identical to the one that I used in my recent post on dating, but the author develops the strategies to much greater extent:
"Here are some ground rules (basically the same rules as on MTV’s show Next):
1. You only date one person at a time.
2. A relationship either ends with you “rejecting” or “selecting” the other person.
3. If you “reject” someone, the person is gone forever. Sorry, old flames cannot be rekindled.
4. You plan on dating some fixed number of people (N) during your lifetime.
5. As you date people, you can only tell relative rank and not true rank. This means you can tell the second person was better than the first person, but you cannot judge whether the second person is your true love. After all, there are people you have not dated yet."
Added later:
All this is not as ridiculous, as it sounds - it is the algorithm that is used by most "single and looking" people that I know, particularly by those who use the internet dating. Even though most of them don't formulate it so clearly.
My article points out that this algorithm always fails, and that there is much truth to the statement that you meet your love when you are not really looking for it (i.e. when you don't bind yourself by silly rules.) - again, this is what many people who found a partner say.
The article, that I added today, has a definition of success in dating that is different from mine. It is certainly useless in terms of finding a soulmate. But if the goal is to get married - it is a big improvement, compared to what most people normally do.
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